Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Parent to Parent: Good Manners
Yes ma'am, no sir, please and thank you are music to the ears of parents who are trying to teach little ones to mind their manners. In tonight's Parent to Parent, Seven's Lynn Martinez shows us how to get our kids into the good manners grove.
WSVN -- Hillary is a stay-at-home mom to 3-year-old Jillian and one-and-a-half year old Miles.
These early years are spent having fun, enjoying each other's company, and most important to Hillary, teaching the kids good manners.
Hillary M: "Could I have a cookie, please, Jillie? "
Jillie: "Thank you."
Hillary M: "You're welcome."
Good manners are a top priority here.
Hillary M: "I want to be able to take them to a restaurant or a museum or to go see a movie, and I want them to understand the correct way to act."
Hillary teaches her kids by modeling the good manners she would like to see. The experts say this family has the right idea.
Dr. Valerie Goode: "If you want your child to say please and thank you, say please and thank you to your child. It's really important."
So is being consistent. Say please and thank you all the time, not just once in a while. Teach by example sharing, kindness and courtesy. If your child is impolite, try to correct her in a positive way.
Dr. Valerie Goode: "You can say, 'You know, it probably would have made your friend feel really good if you would have said "thank you."' It's important to people. Rather than, 'You're a bad friend and a rude friend,' so you're pointing out the behavior, but your re-framing it entirely."
Remember, even the best kids don't get it overnight. If a child needs a time out, the experts say to always make their punishment the same, so they'll know the consequences. Never be afraid to set limits.
Hillary M: "I will take things away. If they can't share, it's gone, and then I can always re-introduce it later, but they do understand that my word is the word."
Good old fashioned manners are the first step in building social skills that will last a lifetime, and that never goes out of style.
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Dr. Valerie Goode