Tuesday, February 28, 2006
Parent to Parent: College
For many young adults, it can be the biggest decision of their lives. But it doesn't have to be a decision they make alone. In tonight's Parent to Parent, Dr. Debbie shows us the right way parents can help their child choose a college.
WSVN--All across South Florida, high school seniors are eyeing their mailboxes -- watching and waiting for college acceptance letters to arrive.
Jennifer Eklund: I really want to go to UCF. I'm just waiting for someone to tell me if we get any mail or anything."
Rebecca Matheson: "I can't believe it's may last year already. It flew by."
Jennifer Eklund and Rebecca Matheson have been friends since pre-kindergarten.
Even Jennifer's mom can't believe this is their last year of high school.
Dawn Eklund: "It's hard to believe. Going from very tiny to very big and being on thier own. They have to fend for themselves now."
But today, even a great grade point average and extracurricular activities won't get you into the school of your choice.
7 News parenting expert, Dr. Debbie Glasser says parents have to prepare their kids for the possibility of rejection.
Dr. Debbie Glasser: "Getting rejection letters can be very overwhelming. It's a very competitive process these days and its so important for parents to send the message that there is not just one right school."
Dr. Debbie suggests making sure your child knows a rejection letter isn't a personal failure.
Instead, many factors are evaluated including demographics, desired degree, and available slots.
Dr. Debbie: "Take a deep breath to look at your options and to look ahead."
Then once your child gets accepted, make sure she looks past the glossy brochures.
Talk to people who have been the college.
Visit the school and discuss all the factors including financial.
Dr. Debbie: "How important is fraternity and sorority life to you? What about climate? Do you have certain feelings about living in various parts of the country? These are questions that parents are encouraged to ask their teens about."
In the end parents, don't pressure your child -- let them decide what school's right for them.
And if they don't want to continue studying right away, consider a gap year -- a year off from school.
Dr. Debbie: 'Many parents fear that once their child leaves high school and doesn't go right to college, they may never go back. In fact kids who do productive, meaningful gap years tend to be more committed students at the end of the year."
Rebecca's not taking a break.
She's been accepted to UM, her first choice.
While Jennifer's headed to the University of Central Florida.
Jennifer Eklund: "Sad to leave my friends but excited to go to a new school."
Rebecca Matheson: "Now, I'm going to a huge university. It's kind of nerve racking, but I'm excited I really can't wait to go to college."
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