Tuesday, November 21, 2006
Parent to Parent: Mall
The countdown is on to the biggest shopping day of the year -- and if you end up taking your kids, you could end up with two things: A raging headache or an empty wallet. Tips to keep your sanity and some of your money in today's Parent to Parent.
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In this family, a love of shopping is an inherited trait -- but, at the mall, mom Terri has triple the trouble.
Karlie: "Mom, can I have this?"
Skylar: "I want it. I want it. Please?"
Chandler: "Can I please have this?"
Terri: "They don't forget. It's 'I want it' until we are out of the store. It stresses me out, and I just want to get out of the store as quickly as possible."
And she's not alone.
For a lot of moms and dads, a trip to the mall can turn into madness.
That's why 7's Parenting Expert Dr. Valerie says you have to learn how to control their outbursts.
Dr. Valerie Goode: "When you take them to the mall, make it an activity for them."
Start by making a list and checking it twice.
Before you leave home, talk about the shopping plan.
Make sure to tell your kids where you are going and what you are going to buy.
Dr. Valerie Goode: "For holiday shopping, if your child is old enough, sit down so they can make their own list and what they want to buy as well."
Then set a time limit and stick to it.
Also, realize most kids are not ready to shop 'til they drop.
Dr. Valerie Goode: "After two hours, even if they are doing well, you have to go because you need to know your children and how much they can handle."
You also want your children to know how much they can spend.
Give them an allowance or giftcards.
It's important to let them feel like they're buying their own presents.
Dr. Valerie Goode: "Let them experience the fun of the holiday."
But if the experience turns sour, plan your exit.
Dr. Valerie says children need to learn bad behavior will not be tolerated.
Dr. Valerie Goode: "No explanations, no reasoning. It doesn't matter if you have a basket full of items -- pick the child up and go."
Terri's making sure her kids know what happens when you're naughty or nice, but she wants them to learn another valuable lesson.
Terri: "I feel I'm teaching them a very valuable lesson, and they are also realizing they are very fortunate. There are other kids out there that don't have what they have."
Lynn Martinez: "Dr. Valerie also says you can also choose to leave your kids at home. If you feel they, and you, aren't up to the task of living by this shopping plan."
IF YOU HAVE A CONCERN DR. VALERIE CAN HELP YOU WITH, E-MAIL US AT:
Dr. Valerie Goode
7711 SW 62 Ave.
Miami, FL 33143