Tuesday, May 15, 2007
Parent to Parent: Single Moms
Our tribute to moms continues this month with a look at single moms and the joys and challenges of raising a child on your own. In today's Parent to Parent, Dr. Valerie has advice on how to make life a little easier along the way.
WSVN -- Bethany Reis: "Go ahead, keep going ..."
Bryant Reis: "I can't."
Bethany Reis: "You can do it, come on."
Bethany Reis is raising her 9-year-old son Bryant on her own.
Bethany Reis: "I got pregnant and decided to jump into the unknown, take a huge risk, and I had my son."
Like so many single moms, Bethany says her biggest challenge is time -- she never has enough of it.
Bethany Reis: "It is a big juggling act between making it all work."
Lynn: "So tell me about the struggles single moms face."
Dr. Valerie Goode: "The first one that comes to mind are time limitations. You never have enough time to do anything for yourself."
Seven's parenting expert Dr. Valerie Goode says that's why it's so important for single moms to develop a support network.
For example, you can swap babysitting duties with a friend or relative -- and don't be afraid to ask for help.
Dr. Valerie: "Perhaps there's a parent who stays home during the day that's more than happy to help you out, and you can repay her by watching her children on the weekend."
Other single moms may be your best resource.
You can team up and take turns giving each other a break and support.
Lynn Martinez: "I think mothers in general have guilt, but I imagine single moms have even more."
Dr. Valerie Goode: "Guilt is a given. You don't have enough time, you're cranky, you're irritable, you're yelling at your kids sometimes."
Dr. Valerie says "let it go" -- realize you're not superwoman and take a well-deserved break when you're feeling stressed out.
Dr. Valerie Goode: "Take a break when you need to, don't overdo it, eat the right foods, exercise, all the things that you would do to be a healthy person."
Bethany is taking that advice and her son Bryant loves the attention.
Bryant Reis: "We go out and go to the beach, she brings me to school every day."
Bethany says she hopes the friends who help her know how much she appreciates it.
Bethany Reis: "I'm very grateful for every friend, for every one of my child's friends, people who keep us company and who help us out."
Lynn Martinez: "Dr. Valerie says make sure you have a list of people to call in case you run into a bind, like if you need someone to pick your child up from school."
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