Friday, May 6, 2005
7 News Features: Do's And Don'ts of Dating
With nearly 300 million people living in the U.S, you'd think there would be someone for everyone. But if dating services don't work and you're just not meeting "Mr. Right", maybe you're sending the wrong signals. In tonight's special assignment report, 7's Christine Cruz is introducing us to the do's and don'ts of dating.
WSVN -- Sweaty palms, deep breaths, butterflies in the stomach.
We've all experienced great dates and disastrous dates. But when it comes to finding the right chemistry, why do certain couples click? We're about to find out.
Gentlemen meet Ana. She's a 25-year-old college student who loves travelling, art and fine dining.
But that's not homework she's looking at. Those are resumes for three eligible bachelors.
And tonight, she's going on a blind date with one of them.
Bachelor number one - Tom. He's a 32-year-old charter aircraft executive who enjoys hip hop music, fine dining, and wants children one day.
Ana: "I want children someday too. I mean it will happen, but not now."
Bachelor number two - Nat. He's a 38-year-old doctor who likes outdoor fun, cultural activites, and going out at night.
Ana: "He likes to go out three-four nights per week. I don't know how you do that as a doctor."
And finally bachelor number three - David. He's a 30-year-old entrepreneur -- prefers staying home, watching sports, and describes himself as an evening person.
Ana: "He's not a morning person. I am a morning person."
So who did our bachelorette Ana pick?
It's bachelor number one - Tom. So will this be a match or a mishap. Well, the difference between making and missing a connection can be subtler than you think.
And that's why we'll have two relationship experts analyzing all aspects of Ana's date.
Shannon Smith from Global Love Mergers: "I think the outfit she chose was great. Very feminine. Not too revealing, but really great."
Kailen Rosenberg: "I think something that definitely shows your personality, not too trendy, something that is not to revealing. Men like to have some things left to the imagination."
As for her date tom, so far so good. But once they sit down, first impression not very impressive.
Shannon: "He's not ready to engage with her. His body is completely turned away from her."
Kailen: "He's not quite ready to get over first date jitters."
And he's not quite ready to give Ana his undivided attention.
Kailen: "That's just really disrespectful."
But not impossible to overcome with some quick conversation.
Ana: "What is the most interesting place you been?"
Tom: "We went to Vegas recently, it was the first time I've been there."
Ana: "I have been there four times."
Sounds good, but listen closely and this small talk could present a big problem.
Shannon: "When she's asking him a question, she is not taking the time to let him fully answer."
Shannon: "She could explore what he has to say more fully."
Unless the conversation is about the ex.
Tom: "What are you studying?"
Tom: "Really. You sure you can deal with all those kids?"
Tom: "I went out with a girl who became a teacher."
Shannon: "I'm completely uncomfortable with anyone who brings up a past relationship or asks the other about a past relationship on a first date."
And keep in mind ladies, most men are uncomfortable if you try to serve him during the meal.
Kailen: "In a sense she's kind of disrespecting his manhood."
But Tom's manhood gets bonus points for picking up the check at the end of the meal.
Tom: Is that our bill?" he reaches for it, she gets our her credit card.
Tom: "Put that away baby."
Kailen: "I am surprised his face is not even wincing when he sees how much it is."
What will make a man or woman wince is how to end a date.
Always awkward and uncomfortable, what is the best way to say goodbye?
Our experts say read the body language.
Tom: "It was very nice meeting you Ana."
Ana: "It was very nice meeting you, Tommy we must do some high tea."
Tom: "You have my phone number, so text me."
Ana: "I will, I will text you."
Tom: "Give me both sides. Take care sweetie."
Kailen: "They never sat close together. She did have good body language for a good period of time, but she never leaned into him."
Shannon: "If she wants to go further, she'll turn her head to make it more than a cheek kiss."
Because when it comes to the do's and don'ts of dating, don't try to rush a relationship and always do what feels naturally.
One more tip for the women - our experts suggest if you know the man is paying, always order a meal that's moderate in price. As for Ana and Tom, we've learned they did go on a second lunch date -- this time without the cameras.
FOR MORE INFORMATION:
Global Love Mergers