Tuesday, January 27, 2004
What Would You Do: How Women can Protect Themselves If Attacked
A lot of women have been there ... You're on a date or in a club when a guy gets too aggressive. So what do you do? Here's Seven's Charles Perez with the answer.
A night of partying can become a night of peril.
Maybe it's on the dance floor, maybe it's at the bar... When a man just won't take no for an answer.
"You're such a cute little thing ... Come here .. let me give you a kiss and a hug."
At this simulated bar, self defense instructor Julio Anta shows women how to prevent unwanted advances.
In this scenario, our victim - Elena - makes the most common mistake - she encourages her solicitor by cowering.
"She put her eyes down. She's giving me a no, especially a drunk that's telling him, this one's easy."
So what do you do - be nice but be assertive.
"I'm sorry, I'm waiting for my husband.
"I've seen your husband, he's one of those pencil neck geeks.I want you now to go with me."
Note how Elena makes eye contact .. and puts up her hands to create a space.
Charles says, "Here's what I'm seeing Julio. She's drawing a boundary. But she's not disrespecting you."
Julio says, "Exactly. She kept her hands up ... her tone was like mine."
But sometimes a guy keeps coming, and when this happens...
"'I'm going to put my arms up ... you're going to grab me and come on ... you're just gonna ... Oh Jease."
Back up: Elena first grabs my arms to deflect the hug ... and then watch ... she bends back my thumbs ... the only way out drop down.
Or you can always remember this phrase .. "GET" him.
"Groin, eyes, throat."
That's right, "GET" stands for groin, eyes, and throat.
"An attack to the groin could be a kick, could be a slap or grab..."
Julio had me practice on a dummy.
"He'll go down if you hit him strong. Yes, but always hit him strong in case you miss. OK Groin, Eyes. Eyes. Go right up in the chin. Right. Take it back, he goes back."
You can also flick a guy in the eyes .. or spear them.
As for the throat ... punch or grab.
The key is to hit and run ... knock him down so you can escape.
Charles asks, "Is this a bad place for a woman to be?"
Julio answers,"Very bad place."
But how do you escape from a car?
"Right now, I've got to go home, I've got to go to work tomorrow."
Elena remains calm as she repeatedly moves Julio's hands off her.
When he gets aggressive .. she responds.
"Come here give me a kiss."
"I want to go home ..."
"Give me a kiss ..."
"He's not expecting her to attack. That is the element of surprise."
A surprise you're attacker will never expect.
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