Tuesday, September 23, 2003
Woman to Woman: Teenage Role Models
This is one that goes back generations. Admit it, moms… you yourselves probably battled it out with your mothers over the latest fashion trends that pushed the envelope. Now in the age of micro-minis and low riders -- we've got some tips on how moms can keep those hemlines in check while still allowing their teens to be hip.
(WSVN) -- They're everywhere you look
On music videos...
At music awards...
Magazines and movies....
Stars strutting their stuff-- leaving little to the imagination.
And whether you like it or not teens are taking notice.
Elvira Dago says, "I think that overexposure is unnecessary."
Moms like Elvira Dago dealing with the fallout. This mother of 5 -- two boys and three teenage girls -- says her teens test her patience constantly when it comes to clothes.
Elvira says, "It's a little low."
Teenager, Ursula Dago says, "I love skirts because I like my body and my legs. I love to show that off because I have it."
Elvira says, "I have told her there is such a thing as provoking a situation."
And that's what most mom's worry about...Trying to balance between a good self esteem...
Tahlia Dago says, "If I like how I look in it, I don't care if anyone else doesn't like it."
And making sure your daughter doesn't send the wrong message -- by following teen trends like tattoos, body piercings, and barely there apparel.
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Karen Rubinstein says, "If it becomes a power struggle, then I think in fact it may have the opposite result."
Family Therapist Karen Rubinstein says it's important for moms to keep an open line of communication with their kids...
Make sure you know what your children are watching, the music they're listening too, and the people they're hanging out with.
Karen says, "We want to teach them to love themselves as they are to accept who they are exactly as they are."
And while the Britney's and Madonna's of the world will always be there...remember your kids can have real life role models...that are much more real.
Elvira says, "I've told them what you're seeing is a product, and that's not real life, real life has to be more simple."
In fact, experts say you don't have to go very far to find role models for your teens.
Look to your own community and within your own family… that includes moms -- remember your daughters may very well end up following your lead.
FOR MORE INFORMATION:
Karen S. Rubinstein
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Centre for Connection, Inc.
2699 Stirling Road, Ste. A-105
Fort Lauderdale, FL 33312