Tuesday, March 30, 2004
Woman to Woman: Older Moms
In tonight's Woman To Woman report, not only are women getting married older, but they're choosing to start their families later in life too. But breaking the baby age barrier has its challenges and most definitely its rewards.
So has model Iman and actress, Julianne Moore -- they're not just pushing middle age, they're pushing baby strollers too.
In fact, more women then ever are choosing to become older moms.
"I wanted a baby more than anything in this world," says Wendy Ginsberg.
At 39, Wendy had her son Craig.
"I didn't get married till I was 37," she says, "then we tried for awhile and had some complications and then tried again and told I couldn't have any, and then here's my little miracle baby.
Shari Silverman started her family at 40.
"I had Gavin when I was 40 and I had Dara just four months ago at 45," Shari says.
Like a lot of older moms, both Shari and Wendy were career women.
In Shari's case, this was her second marriage.
With their biological clocks ticking, both women had to act fast.
"There was no doubt, I was going to have my family, my big family, and it was just very important to me," she says.
But being an older mom has its obstacles, like being the age of a grandparent, rather than a parent.
Shari says, "You tend to think about all the events that will happen in your children's life, and you hope that you're there for all of them."
"The future does scare me since I am an older mom, that we've already figured out how old I'll be by the time he's in college," says Wendy.
Unlike other moms, older women also can face isolation.
That's why Shari started her own club for stay-at-home mothers.
"There's something with age," says Shari. "I think there's some kind of savvy one gets when they get a little bit of experience behind them."
Wendy says, "I am surprised that there are a lot of older moms which makes me feel better about myself because I always wanted him younger, but it didn't happen."
So take it from these older moms, who have some words of wisdom for women longing for a baby.
"Take the chance go for it, definitely," Wendy says, "because I can't imagine life without him."
Shari adds, "I hope to be an inspiration for a lot of women in their 40's, or in their late 30's who are so panic striken about having children."
You should know, after age 45, about 95 percent of women cannot conceive on their own.
But back in 1997, a 63-year-old became the oldest woman to give birth in the U.S.
FOR MORE INFORMATION:
Shari's Older Moms Club in Coral Springs/Parkland area