Tuesday, August 26, 2003
Woman to Woman: Dating For The Mature Woman
Ask anyone who's single and they'll tell you most of the time, the dating game isn't any fun. It becomes even more challenging when you're older. Tonight, we're talking Woman To Woman about divorce and dating-- when you're over forty.
(WSVN) -- It's supposed to be for life, but what happens when "till death do us part" leaves you alone again?
"I was married when I was 17," says Rebecca Diaz, "had children immediately and was married for 20, 21 years."
Whether divorced, like Rebecca Diaz, widowed or never married -- the number of single women and men over 40 is growing.
That means more singles on the dating scene and a whole new round of dating anxiety.
"Was it difficult for you to start dating that first day to start dating again?" asks Beatriz.
"I was married so young," says Rebecca, "that I really wasn't out there dating a lot, so this is a new experience."
A new experience... with a lot of new obstacles.
Single women over 40 say men their age are looking for younger women.
Many are married.
Plus, when they do meet a match, children play a factor.
"They judge every person that I go out with," says Rebecca about her children, "so if they don't like the person, they don't want me to go out with them."
But experts say going out is a must.
At 40-plus, though, clubs and bars may seem like deja-vu.
So why not try the internet?... a lot of mature singles are now turning to their computers and social clubs to meet Mr. Right.
"I decided there has to be a better way to meet professional people," says Suzi K.
So Suzi started "Singular Sensation," a social group for 40 to 65-year-olds.
This divorced mother and newspaper advice columnist says the social network emphasizes fun not romance.
"Meet other single men, make friends, network your business, make connections and if something comes of that, great it's a wonderful bonus," says Suzi.
Suzi's other suggestion for sophisticated singles:
"Find charity events to go to," she says, "because in and of itself you are meeting a certain group of people that are probably well-educated, probably have a little bit extra disposable income."
You may also want to try wine tastings...
Business card exchanges...
And cooking classes.
"Cookworks" in Bal Harbour is offering up recipes for romance each month with classes geared specifically towards singles.
"I thought it would be something different, like if you're in a smaller atmosphere, smaller setting," saysJeanine Dronsick.
As for Rebecca, she's still looking for love.
"Do you still believe you can find Mr. Right?" asks Beatriz.
"I hope that I will," says Rebecca. "I would love to fall in love and meet a man."
Another way to meet single men, try a singles cruise.
Singular sensation is sailing off on one this weekend.
FOR MORE INFORMATION:
SINGULAR SENSATION, INC./PREMIERE NETWORK FOR OLDER SINGLE PROFESSIONALS
COOKWORKS "FLIRTING WITH FOOD" SERIES FOR SINGLES
Bal Harbour Shops
9700 Collins Avenue, Second Floor
THE SINGLE BEST EVENT TO BENEFIT THE CYSTIC FIBROSIS FOUNDATION
September 5, 2003 at 7pm
Boca Raton Marriot
5150 Town Center Circle