Tuesday, September 2, 2003
Woman to Woman: Surviving Miscarriage
One in 10 pregnancies will end in a miscarriage. But For many women, it will take months to recover from the despair and depression. Tonight, we'll show women the best way to emotionally overcome a miscarriage.
(WSVN) -- Every eight seconds, a baby is born in the United States, yet for thousands of couples, it is a day that will have to wait.
Their incredible desire to have a child put on hold.
"It's devastating," says Zoila Perez-Chanquet, who had a miscarriage after trying to have a baby for three years. "For that, I'd rather not get pregnant again."
"It's very depressing," Zoila adds. "It's a hard thing to go through."
The baby would have been the first child for Zoila and her husband. But something went terribly wrong in the fifth week of pregnancy... Zoila started bleeding.
"It was just a horrible feeling when it happened," says Zoila. "I mean, I cried for days."
Empty cradle, broken hearts.
Doctors predict one out of every ten pregnancies will end in a miscarriage.
Majority of the time, the reason is unknown - most likely, a random genetic disorder.
"I'vebeen in Zoila's shoes," offers reporter Beatriz Canals. "Two miscarriages, then Andres, and I suffered a third miscarriage just recently. If there's anything I've learned, there's little you can do to prevent most miscarriages, but experts say there are steps to a healthier pregnancy."
Dr. Yolangel Hernandez, of the University of Miami, says, "Try to be at your best weight, try to be at your best health as you attempt conception."
For women who have suffered a miscarriage, also allow yourself to recover emotionally as well as physically.
"It's OK to feel really sad," says Dr. Hernandez.
In fact, most women will experience shock, denial, despair, even numbness.
It's best if you have the time to recuperate and return to a sense of normalcy before you start trying again.
"It just took me a while," Zoila says, "like four or five months to get over that."
And, like most women who miscarry, Zoila was left with the fear she may never have a child.
But remember, the fact that you miscarried means you can get pregnant.
"One uncomplicated miscarriage does not alter her reproductive or fertility success in any way," says Dr. Hernandez.
Zoila and her husband aren't giving up.
This time, they're going to a fertility specialist praying that special day will come.
"I want to do everything I can, so I won't regret it later on," says Zoila.
There are many factors that can contribute to a miscarriage.
In Zoila's case, one factor could be age.
Statistics do show a woman at 40 is much more likely to have a miscarriage than a woman in her twenties or thirties.
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