WSVN -- From TV to magazines to everyday life we live in an R rated society and our kids are listening and learning it all.
Lawrence Friedman, UM Miller School of Medicine: "Parents underestimate the activities of their children and teenagers."
Dr Lawrence Friedman says kids are becoming sexually active at younger ages. That's why parents should have the talk before middle school.
Lawrence Friedman: "They should automatically just start conversations, even if they don't think that their children are necessarily ready for them."
He says the parents best bet is to start with defining what sex is.
Lawrence Friedman: "Sometimes we only think of having sex as real intercourse, but oral sex and other kids of mutual petting and deep touching behaviors can also be called sex."
He says parents should talk about intercourse, pregnancy, condom use and sexually transmitted diseases. They should also discuss healthy relationships.
Joyce Miller is a mom and a doctor, she talks to her sons whenever she has the opportunity.
Joyce Miller: "Sometimes they don't even want to talk about it, and sometimes they just a little grunt , whatever."
She says parents should be open and honest, but to also make talks age appropriate.
Joyce Miller: "Certainly my 12-year-old isn't prepared to hear the same information that my 16-year-old is prepared to hear, so the discussions are usually not together."
Parents should always encourage questions and keep discussions ongoing as kids get older.
Lawrence Friedman: "It's really incumbent upon parents to bring the information, their own feelings, their own family values and morals to children before the activities actually begin."
Talking to your kids from an early age gives them the knowledge and confidence to handle situations that come up in the future.
FOR MORE INFORMATION, PLEASE CONTACT:
Sex Talk Taking Place After the Factwww.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/news/fullstory_92708.html
How to Talk to Your Kids About Sexwww.valuesparenting.com/talktokids.php